Marriage is only important because we make it. As though the lover we have committed our time , loyalty, and fidelity to will somehow change overnight into everything that we've ever wanted them to be. Everything we need. Unemployment will suddenly become a full time job with abundant money flow and amazing benefits. Laziness will become hard-working and considerate, taking on any task with zeal and efficiency. Cheating and lying will become faithfulness and truth, honesty and communication. All after these two magic words. "I Do."

How disappointed we fools are when we face the same issues we battled before those vows were spoken. How hurt we are when our unfaithful fiance turns into a sneaky husband. Your wife still can't cook even though you put a ring on it. You still can't communicate. It's like our expectations are exacerbated and unrealistic to boot. Marriage changes nothing except maybe your tax return and your right to each other's money and personal belongings. Oh yeah, and your last name. Being his wife isn't going to change that man. Being her husband isn't going to change that woman. Marriage is only important because we make it. Because we have been forced to digest the idea that our goal in life is to find a partner and build a life. Without this we are nothing and we have failed. But ask the million of divorced. Marriage does not equal life. We are deeper than domestication. A ring does not work miracles.

Change exists in us. We change when we're ready and only for what we want to and who we want to. It's that simple. It's that complex. It's what we make it.